Every girl has a 'husband checklist'. You know, the things we dream of our husbands being like when we finally find 'the one'. Hopefully we include things like 'worthy priesthood holder' and 'loves his mom'. But, more often than not, these lists also include less than noble attributes. 'Tall, dark and handsome' seems to be a common theme among lists that I've seen. As I've cycled through lists I've noticed that some of my ideas were great, while others were a bit shallow or simply unimportant.
Anyone who knows me is well aware of my Harry Potter fanaticism. For a long time it was one of the only things I was passionate about. When people find out that Matt has neither read nor seen Harry Potter, their reactions seem to have a common thing. "She still talks to you?" and "How is this (referring to our relationship) working?" are popular choices, and stunned silence is also not uncommon. Two years ago I might've been asking these questions myself.
Since then, (fortunately) I have grown up a bit. I've always known what was actually important, but maybe I haven't gotten married before now because I didn't put my money where my mouth is.
We met in a singles ward
Alright now, I know what you're thinking. Shell, you're from Provo. You grew up in Provo, you went to high school in Provo, you go to college in Provo, and everybody and their dog marries someone from their singles ward. You're saying you like that you're story is completely unoriginal?
Let me explain.
As a teenager, whenever I pictured getting married, I always imagined it would be accompanied by a fantastic love story. Some examples:
- We triumphed over the "friend-zone" after 6 years of wizarding school and a horcrux-hunting adventure together.
- Each of our names was selected at the reaping and we were the first duo to achieve victory in the Hunger Games where we ultimately fell in love.
He has a plan
Studies show that when people don't have a marker to follow, they can't walk in a straight line. The picture below shows the travel patterns of people told to walk in straight lines
There are few things more unattractive to me than hearing the response "I don't know" to questions like, "What do you want to do in your life?" or "What are some things you want to accomplish?" They just leave me thinking, seriously? You have no goals whatsoever? Now there is nothing wrong with being an opening major your first few semesters of college, or even changing your major a time or two. But when boys are wandering around aimlessly hoping their chosen path will leap out in front of them, that is a major red flag.
One of the things I love most about Matt is that he not only has answers to these questions, but his answers are very well thought out. He knows who is is and is proud of it. It knows what he has accomplished and how it can help him progress even further. He has a good idea about where he wants to go and he knows what it will take to get there. Will his goals change along the way? Maybe. Will the requirements? Almost certainly. But he has picked a focus point, and he is following it.
He was prepared for me
With him, I come first.
Let's get nerdy for a second. In most object-oriented programming languages (I know some of you have already fallen asleep but just stick with me), the index things starting with the number zero. So, if I were to create a list, for example list = [apple, orange, banana], apple would be in 'zero'eth position and orange would be first.
I would like to compare this to Matt's priorities. Obviously I want very much for him to think that I am important. I want him to worry about my needs and care about my feelings. But there is someone even more important than me. And that is the Lord. I know that Matt
And maybe it's a good thing he hasn't read Harry Potter. That just means I get to re-experience what it was like to read it for the first time through him. And maybe he'll like it. Maybe he won't. None of his exceptional qualities will be enhanced or diminished either way. He loves me. I love everything about him. And that's all that matters.
Every girl has a 'husband checklist'. You know, the things we dream of our husbands being like when we finally find 'the one'. Hopefully we include things like 'worthy priesthood holder' and 'loves his mom'. But, more often than not, these lists also include less than noble attributes. 'Tall, dark and handsome' seems to be a common theme among lists that I've seen. As I've cycled through lists I've noticed that some of my ideas were great, while others were a bit shallow or simply unimportant.
Anyone who knows me is well aware of my Harry Potter fanatacism
We met in a singles ward
Alright now, I know what you're thinking.
He has a plan
He was prepared for me
I am his #1
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